Quote: hey LL with ow I had a great emotional connection and was able to communicate with words and such but with you I cannot talk so I'll just shag ya once in a while???
Have you told him this is how you feel? Don't mention OW just something like I feel loved when you ___________ (fill in the blank). Lack of communication to your spouse is allowing this undercurrent of mistrust to flourish.
Don't assume you think he knows what you want....you have to spell it out for him repeatedly. Check out these books: "Getting your husband to talk" by Veerman AND "How to get your h to talk" by Connie Grigsby, Nancy Cobb.
You have to realize that your h is not you and thus does not think the way you do. You are going at interactions with him with all your assumptions in place. You need to loose the assumptions! for help on this get this book: "The lies we believe" by Thurman.
Don't assume you know why he's doing something....half the time they can't even tell you what they are feeling so how can you explain why he said THAT that way. You'll make yourself crazy!
