It is especially hard to live with someone who is a lump. Trying to detach in this scenario is difficult to say the least. To me it's like the lump is taking up valuable air space!!! and that aggravates me to no end. I used to be so fed up that my h SAT there and watched me struggle with the kids, sometimes I cried cause I was so tired/worn out yet he remained sitting while I struggled.
LL may not have this kind of trouble yet there are many issues with detaching when your s is in the house. It's doable but you'll need to prepare yourself to deal with s not reacting.
