Thanks, SC - that's helpful. I have a great book on how to handle D with children - the Sandcastle book. H actually read it too (shocking me), so we're going to be vigilant.
However, I'm glad that I decided not to try to have H spend the next week here - I think it would have broken me.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11