Have you told him how you feel? Ask him if he has a solution for the problem? I'd tell him straight out what I felt then told him my solution if he has none to offer.
I find myself in the same boat...my r is still the same though my h says he doesn't want a d. Am I also to just not want the d too but live with the same old h, be unhappy? My h is in counseling but has yet to get it...that he has to change for our m not for himself.
I would list out what you think would be the pros/cons of getting a d. I know how hard it is to live with a 'roommate'...did that for 7 years. It's even more depressing to live with someone that you can't even get a reaction out of!
I'd try approaching your h very calmly and quietly about how you feel then ask for him to provide a solution. Give him a deadline.
