One last thing, I really have no choice in the D. It was filed before I was even told. I didn't get a chance to wait it out or be there to support my wife through it. She tossed me away like trash and treated me like something less than that. I doubt I will be able to maintain my resolve as long as I have those things fresh in my memory. I'm going to end up divorced without even being given a chance.
I can only say that it is not unusual for it to happen this way. It is only a piece of paper, and it takes two people to get divorced. I know lots of people that are divorced and reconcilling with their spouses. The key to it at this point is to LET GO and believe in the MLC process.
