I hear what you are saying in your reponse to me and the others - your fed -up of making it easy for him to get outfrom under getting real is that it?
I have been there, and it cost me my marriage when I finally put my foot down, for me it was worth it, I had been threatening for years. My day to day lifeis much much betterwithout him. I do not dare advise you of a thing - you know what you want Love.