I think your wife is getting mad because when you say "well that's everything... Thanks" she is no longer in control of you. It shows her that you are moving forward and not "waiting on her". That makes it difficult for her because now she has to face the very real possibility of losing you. So I see that as a good sign. It tells me that she may be starting to have second thoughts about her escape plan, and fear that you could move on. To reinforce what Sandi said... Don't be afraid to date, (friendship... Flirting... You don't have to do anything you are not comfortable with,,, just play single for a while) you are a single man now. You are living your life, it's not fair for you to be lonely. Yes, your stbxw may be jealous, she probably still has very real feelings and may realize them when she sees you with someone else, but that's not the goal of GAL, it may be an added benefit though. (You should be clear with anyone you are seeing that for now you just want friendship so as not to lead them on), You need to show by your actions that you are OK, even if you are not. I am sure she will notice the difference. Don't flaunt other women under her nose, she will discover that on her own, and that's how it needs to happen otherwise it looks insincere. And i think what Sandi is saying is that, as hard as it is, your stbxw needs to realize her true feelings, and even when or if she does you need to play "hard to get" so that she "yearns" for you.
This is also good advice for me to follow, my sitch is a little different because I am still living in the same house with my wife. She does not get the chance to miss me because I am home morning and night. That's why I am glad she is leaving to visit her parents for 9 days. I will be GAL while she is gone. I will establishing new friendships with single people and I will not be home to take her calls if or when she calls.
In the end. The one thing I have read over and over here is that you can't fake GAL. GAL is not a trick, it is a coping mechanism for you to live through this tough time...
I guess Carpe Diem, would describe it best!
Good luck friend!
How's that Sandi?
Me 45 W 34 W.A.W. 3K. D11 S9 D6 M 12 y T 13 y Bomb drop 02/22/2011 2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011 Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011
