@JS I waited almost 48 hrs. I even sent her a text about something completely different and she didn't respond. I was kinda testing the waters to get a gauge on where she was at. She's definitely pulling away since making it seem like she wanted to go Rockclimbing on Saturday nite.
I sent her an email shortly after I froze the account. I acknowledged that she broke our agreement. I acknowledged how it made me feel when she did (angry and betrayed). I stated that for BOTH of those reasons I froze the account so we could BOTH be protected. I explained that it wasn't a threat or that the freeze had to stay in effect. It was just there until we could decide how to best move forward.
I stated that I didn't want the divorce to get ugly and that I am still committed to being loving and honest throughout the process.
Honestly, it was the best I could do. Not too cold, but did not "push under the rug" what she did either.
Of course I'm scared of her reaction. Scared she will get a L, but I can't do anything about her anymore. I'm just glad I'm no longer scared that she will do something crazy like pull her half of it.
She's really unpredictable right now. The only consistency is that she doesn't care how her actions affect me and that when she has good experiences from me, she runs. When she has to deal with bad feelings about me, she runs. When she runs, lord only knows how what she will do.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
