A good discussion about how to handle a WAS started on another thread, but the author moved back to Newcomers.
Angel wrote: There are many conflicting concepts in handling spouses having A's. On one extreme, the Joyce brothers method, is to totally ignore it, on the premise that A's never last, will fizzle out, and he will come back. Surprisingly, I have heard real life stories from quite a number of people, and it seems to work. Think about it - having to hide the A, the guilt, - it would ultimately become old and take its toll. I think this works when the WAS is intrinsically good, family oriented .... like a lot of them here. One thing though - the LBS in this case has to be really, really strong.
On the other hand, Dobson's tough love approach. Give the ultimatum, and your boundaries.
This needs proper timing though. Too early, and you push your spouse to the OP. They are not ready to decide and might just as well decide against you.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
