Shell,

Not to be a downer or anything...

Use the stages to see where she is and drop the timeline all together...

My STBXH's first period of this...

he wanted to work it out about 2 years after the bomb.

His second go around started about 6 years later and it has now been 4 years since the bomb and he is still working on his stuff...

This isn't meant to depress you or make you think it is hopeless...

It isn't...

HB's stages, are meant as a guideline and is what she experienced (sort of)...

As a therapist, I would hope that you understand that this is something that she has to work through and that will only happen when she is ready...



"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox