I guess I am now an official member of the DB club

[Woodman]

Update
Small town drama. Saw OM pulling into a 24 hour coffee shop parking lot at mid morning. Not breakfast, Not lunch. First tip. Although there were parking spaces right in front, he went around and behind the coffee shop and parked next to the dumpster. Another tip. So I thought I would just park next door in a grocery store parking lot and see "whazzup". As soon as he got his car stopped and turned the engine off he started looking around and dang if he didn't see me. I saw him get on the phone and start his car at the same time. He pulled out very slowly and turned on to the main street. I pulled out and started to follow him and guess who I almost ran into as she was pulling into the coffe shop parking lot? You guessed it! There was W!
Now way back in May, when W decided to move out she told me it was all over with OM. Of course that was the 4th time she had told me it was over in the last year. So I had a feeling in the back of my mind since she left that things were not as they appeared. Now I had seen it again with my own eyes. To add a little flesh to this bony story, I knew that my wife had an appointment with her lawyer to set up an initial property settlement proposal. She was on her way back from that appointment when she almost made the rendevous. So I'm thinking they were going to sit down and have a nice cup of coffee and discuss how she was going to pick my bones clean in the property division and how they were going to live happily ever after.

I didn't realize it but that was my boundary and it is time for some TOUGH LOVE! I have known OM's wife since 7th grade. (small town), so I picked up my cell phone and told her what I had just seen. She has known some of what has gone on between W and OM, but was assured by him that it was no big thing, just friends, and hadn't had contact in months. She is in denial. Anyway, I laid out the whole thing for her for the last year, prepaid cell phones, anonymous hotmail accounts. Private meetings around in adjoining towns. She was devastated.

I drive on home and get on the internet a couple of hours later and found that W has been a busy little girl. She has changed PINS on all investment and retirement accounts and blocked me. Who knows what else she has done. Called my lawyer and drove down to talk to him. Told him the story and told him to protect me. I now have a restraining order in place which is what I should have done originally instead of being Mr. Niceguy. She is basically locked down. She has to give me all the new passwords. Make everything transparent. Spend only for basic necessities. She is off my checking account that she had been burning up with her debit card.
So pull out the 2x4 and swing away, but this W has had it her way too long. And that folks is what i call a 180!!!
My therapist said to be considering what to do if she suddenly shows up at the front door wanting to talk.
Well guess what, she did show up yesterday for the first time in 2 months. Wouldn't come in the house because she was afraid of the restraining order. Dropped off some piece of paper that she said I needed to sign. It was bogus and I didnt sign it. I think she was temperature taking. Whatever.