Divorce on the horizon?

[Thundarr]

I love your post, AJM, and I really feel like you're at a much better place than Tad and I are right now even though we're working on it. Your perspective is spot on that a normal, sane person does not attack another like this. Relationships and marriages can break up without one party becoming absolutely vile and volatile, and I've seen several where the two parties remained friends throughout the D and co-parented together well. What's going on in most of our cases defies logic or reason and mimics several different DSM-IV diagnoses. I've come to think of this as a transient mental illness, aggravated in some magnitude by peri or maybe even underlying undiagnosed psychiatric problems. I know my own W struggled with anxiety and panic attacks a few years ago that made her unable to drive for several months but seemed to have gone away. I expect them to be triggered again at some point.

It's funny you use the term "radioactive." I've often compared the way my W sometimes acts like she would die if she were physically ten feet or less from me and won't even look at me when she's talkig. I compare it to Superman and kryptonite. She's only like that sometimes, though, and her body language is very telling when she is. She literally backs away if I move an inch closer, almost like I'm getting ready to hit her or something. Truly weird.