Good stuff here LL and IMP!

Nice to see some challenges and fire!

LL, while reading through your last several posts (and remembering how YOUNG you are!) I had a rather sobering thought.

LL, you sound like I really believe I would have sounded had I married my first boyfriend (of 10 years!!)...LL he was ALREADY crashing on the couch by 8 or 9 and we weren't even married yet!

He wanted kids, (and in actuality has two and is a great Dad)...He was more of a "man's man" than CJ is...When you described the "snoring lump on the couch"...well I was beside myself.

LL...I think your H DOES believe he holds the winning deck...he makes the money (for now! )...he does what he wants...he expects you to "play wife" (Please tell me you DIDN'T make them a snack!!! )...

Why not? Look what you put up with? You fought to have him back and he is...what more does HE have to do? (this is from HIS POV, of course!).

LL, I don't think you are in any way ready to call and have the cops remove your H! But detaching, getting out, letting him fend for himself more...

LOOKING for a job (no one says you have to take one ) ...but what might your H think if you're buying a new suit, redoing your resume and answering ads?...You can say in all honesty that you're just keeping up with your interview skills, finding out what's needed in the changing market.

You see LL, I think there might BE some stuff you can do...and the cool part is it's all for YOU...and it can't help but also send a pretty clear message to your H.

If he doesn't start to wonder if his "hand" is as good as he thinks...well then he's a REAL fool, isn't he? And YOU will be in a much better position to move on without him.

Just my thoughts.

Shiny

(What is your degree in again, LL?)