She told me last night that we need to keep everything strictly business because our emotions keep getting in the way. I thought she didn't have any. Atleast, according to her. To her, I am dirt and she KNOWS that she'll never love me again. Says that she wants to move on to a happier life.
Pretty normal projecting words from her Tad...
Maybe HER emotions keep getting in her way.
Maybe next time she spews this, just gently remind her that she has already stated her position on these things, and you understand how she feels.
Originally Posted By: tadpole1025
Wish I could feel better soon.
You could always CHOOSE to feel better....???
When I see you at your worst times, it seems to follow an interaction with her, in which she projects her emotions onto her.
How can you break that chain ?
Your emotions are still very much tied to hers, and she pushes that button on you to get you to feel just as crappy as she does..
Do you know why she does this ?
Because...It works...
I think the whole "block" or "not block " , thing is getting way overplayed and diagnosed...
This is simple...
Does this type of contact affect you ?
From what I read, yes it does.
So what do you need to do for you?
If it were me, I would simply state to her that, You are taking some time for yourself, and will unavailable unless it pertains to , or is an emergency with your children.
Make it about what it is , instead of a punishment TO her.
This is for you Tad.
If you expect different results, then apply different approaches.
