Dealing with MLC wife and her supporting mother!

[broken5150]

Hi Friends!

This past Friday, I took the day off to hang with the kids and took them to see Captain America. When I went to pick them up, my wife said that she wanted to go. This is the first time we had a “family outing” since we’ve been separated last Thanksgiving. However, she did not want to in the same car with us. She went in her own car.

Before the movie, we went to one of our favorite restaurants for lunch approx around 12:30 pm. When we sat at the table and ordered, I noticed yet another clue that this whole ordeal might be a MLC. She ordered liquor. This was a woman that would only drink on occasions, maybe twice a year and now she is ordering hard liquor at 12:30 pm about an hour after she woke up.

During our outing, her and I did NOT communicate at all. She spent the whole time glued to her phone texting. She must of excused herself from the table 4 times to go to the bathroom. Her whole demeanor and character was so strange to me. It was like this person somewhat looked like my wife but it was not her at all. It’s like I’m dealing with a teenager.

If you were to look at our scene at the restaurant from an outside point of view, it was like this…

We were all sitting at a long table and she was on the far end on the opposite side by herself texting and drinking while I was on the other side with the kids drawing and playing tic tac toe.

I felt so disconnected from her, yet, I still feel like there is hope and that I cant abandon her.

I’m trying to figure out what the heck did I just experience here??? Why did she come with us?

Of course, by the end of the weekend, she spewed more venom on me telling me that I have done so much damage to her and the kids and that the divorce papers are at the lawyers office still being worked on. (she’s been telling me this for 5 months already but, nothing yet).

Since we have been separated, this was the first time we went out together. So of course, I was able to tell the difference in her character and how she has changed and to be honest, I’m really worried about her. She used to be such a family orientated woman. She is no longer hanging out with married women or family orientated people. Her new crowd is a bunch of party going single people.

There is this one influence that I know about…She is her “new” best friend. She is the one that gets her into the clubs and is introducing my wife to new people.

I just can’t understand how she can NOT see the difference in her life. Our old lives were about hanging with our circle of friends that were all married and had SO much in common with us. Birthday parties, theme park trips, the whole nine yards. It’s all GONE now.

Still, when I communicate with my wife face to face, she still has that vacant expression on her face. Stressed out, bags under her eyes and it’s like she’s looking right through me when I talk to her. One moment she is telling me I’m not welcomed in her home, then 20 minutes later, she is telling me to come next week and help her clean it.

One thing I know for sure, the arguments and her character are not as brutal as they were when this first started. She has tamed down a bit and she is spending more time at home.

Any opinions on this would be greatly appreciated…