I agree. In the past, my short memory has been a significant enabler in keeping the negative cycle in perpetual motion.
It makes sense that this process will take time due to the length and severity of the abuse.
Also, it’s important to support my W through positive reinforcement when she feels insecure, regardless of how ‘wild” I consider her remarks to be. I’m not blaming. My W has a gigantic heart; the issues are mine to own.
