Cos Welcome to piecing! One of the most frustrating stages. This part requires lots of patience, and love. Check out navyguy, Denver, and maybe even my thread to see how hard it can be. You'll be tempted to want to hurry things in order to end the nightmare, or fill some insecurity on your part. Don't. I can already tell that you feel a little sex starved. Well that's just part of the process. Your W right now is confused and probably a little angry at you and herself. After all she just had to admit that she was wrong in wanting to leave. Her pride may keep her from getting close to you for the time being. On the other hand maybe she is not 100% back. If this is the case any pushiness on you part will just make her go WAW again. You don't want that do you? When it comes to intimacy she drives the car, no matter how lonely or anxious you feel.
When you get frustrated just remember that a month or a few weeks ago you probably would have given the world to be in the situation you are in now.
Also congratulations on the peace you have achieved. By what you said the meds are doing wonders. Take this time of stability to have some good times with her.
That being said, be careful if she stops taking them. Many on meds feel that the emotions they feel on meds are not their true self, and will stop taking them on principle. Some will feel that they no longer need them. Whatever the case be ready for a crash.
My W had to reach her rock bottom without them. The pro is that she feels she came to this conclusion on her own. The con is that she can be volatile at times. I see the opposite for you, lots of calms followed by an explosion of bottled up resemtment. Not trying to worry you, just be ready.
As for sex, just let it go for the foreseeable future, don't force it and don't initiate. It really is in her hands. I have a friend who herself was a WAW she explained that after she and her husband got back together she couldn't bring herself to ml with him. A lot of it she explained was guilt, and self punishment. (Go figure right).
