rachael you couldn't be less off base if you tried....
as I've said before most of the things I complain about in this r have been present for at least a decade (sad since I'm only 30) I'd try to talk to him...try to just go out and do my own thing...left him...he'd come back full force..trying hard to do the things I had asked and actually going overboard...it would be great for a while then just ok then back to crapola!
same thing with this time only h had ow and left....
why would I be foolish enough to think that my giving him an ultimatum and following through with it would actually evoke any lasting change in him??
I have called a lawyer since his return..when things started to get stagnant..he was reluctant to ask me not to go but did admit he didn't want me to go..agreed to go to councelling but it was a waist of time...he couldn't even meet the smallest of my requests for one night a week set aside for us.
