Originally Posted By: grebjack
I struggle is honoring what is important to him when it directly conflicts with what is important to me.


And there's the rub isn't it?

What if it was important to you that he wears clown shoes?

He doesn't want to.

An extreme example I know

But

In his mind right now, it might as well be clown shoes.

It is not WHAT you want and conflicts with your wants and needs.

There is what is.

So don't decide what to do here based on WHAT he is doing.

Decide what you believe in.

And take a step in THAT direction. Not because he will or will not see it or do WHAT you want.

For you and only you.

This path may not the well treaded one but it is the healthiest.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am