I tried to daydream, but my mind kept wandering

[mishka422]

I used to think it was to build a case against me. Now, I think it's just XW's control issues

BINGO!

I hear ya on the meltdowns CTH. My son used to have them all the time in the strangest places. Even in situations where it should have been nothing but fun (like camp) something small would set him off and he would actually do damage to anything within reach (except other people).

He's 16 now and has much better control. There is hope. It just takes time.

Have you asked the school about putting D8 in a social skills class? It could help her learn how to control her urges toward outbursts, especially while in social situations.

Just an idea.