My MLC Story - Help is Appreciated

[Thundarr]

I totally agree that I have to make changes with myself and once the pain, depression and anxiety subside I feel I will be able to do that. It's really hard at this point as everything has moved so quickly I'm still getting my head wrapped around it.

Part of me wanting/ needing to figure this out is it's my career field!! I was totally blindsided by this and had no idea that people could change in such a profound way. To see my loving, devoted, sane wife turn into such a callous monster who seems to draw no line of political correctness between moral integrity and anti-social behavior even when in public. I've never been disrespected like this, even though I've worked with troubled kids for 12 years.

I know she's definitely peri and that has to have alot to do with this as her emotions cycle minute to minute sometimes. I still don't understand her hell-bent obsession on ending the marriage as quickly as possible without any real reason other than needing her independence. I really don't think there's an OM at this point but am afraid there will be soon after the D. It's like she's afraid I'll find a way to save the marriage and she's keeping me off-balance until it's too late. Therein probably lies my answer, as she's probably fearful that I'll stand in the way of her MLC by stopping the D somehow. I've had 3 post-MLC ladies tell me it's best to let her get the D quickly for several reasons, not the least of which she's pretty much willing to give me whatever I want if I do it quickly. If it is over for good, I will come out great with no alimony or child support hanging over my head, possession of the house and most importantly custody of the kids. I don't want this, but all 3 ladies said the D or no D would probably have little to no impact on us reconciling once the hormones level out and the fog begins to clear, One of the ladies did D her husband and returned to him within two years, stating that she never even considered another man during that time as her out-of-control emotions were too overwhelming for her as it was. That seems like it might really fit my W to a T as she has said she has no energy for anything other than work and school.