I just said I understood and deserved the resentment.
Just a suggestion here - don't turn yourself into a whipping post or acting like a dog that just got yelled at. Acknowledge with 'yes, I understand. I will work on earning your trust and respect.'
When your W had an affair, how did you react and how did you treat her? What did you require of her to get your trust back?
It's somewhat unique for your sitch being each of you has had A's and you've been on both sides of trying to repair. When someone says put yourself in their shoes you really did! Sorry, bad joke.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
