I'm glad you listened and are not going to move out. Absolutely see a lawyer and find out your rights in your state.
I wish I'd seen one (as I was advised) before I was served. It would have made the whole process less scary because I would have known what to expect and what my rights were.
Stay stable and calm. W will be angry because things didn't go according to her plan. Keep your cool and give her no ammunition to use against you. Stay as clear from her as you can. Be prepared as W will most likely try to draw you in to her drama.
Carry your share of the load at home and make sure you spend lots of quality time with your daughter.
If your W wants a D, then let her do all the heavy lifting for it.
Strap in SAH, it's a heck of a ride. You're doing awesome for someone who just arrived.
