thanks for the thoughts livenlearn,

I already have a bachelors degree and am capable of holding a job..I am home for the children. they are young...dd wont start school for a few more years..when they are both in school I plan to work...right now I volunteer for the towns ambulance company (the town payed for my certification) so you see I am very capable of doing whatever the hell I want to do when I want to do it. H should know better than to assume he's got me trapped by money he after all didn't find me in a hole...despite the fact that I was young and lived at home I always had a job and payed my own bills.

LL