I came to this board becuase my h was having an affair with one of his customers and had moved out and said he wanted a D. When I first found out about ow (and mind you though h now admits to it being more than just an ordinary friendship he still denies any pa (ya right!)) I wanted a d...h at first agreed but then changed his mind...wanted to work on us...tried..we did more etc..but I wanted to talk about ow and uncover the truth about that r and find some reasons....h didn't stop talking to her but lied....eventually h couldn't lie anymore and moved out...I honestly don't know why I wanted to save the m as there really wasn't much of a m to begin with...there really was nothing to miss while he was gone cept for a breathing corpse on the couch. When he came back things were different..he was awake..attetive...affectionate...talkative etc...all the things I had wanted him to be. but he was still talking to her (proof from home phone records he was calling her from here when I'd go out, each time giving me the lame excuse that he was calling to end it with her...sheesh how many times do you have to have that conversation????) who the hell knows he may still be talking to her.
My kids are now 4 and 2 IMP and that makes a difference...son was a wreck while h was gone and then he had just turned 3.
I will not be a waw when and if I do finally leave...
is this not an ultimatum....
h if things don't change eventually I will get fed up and leave...may be a year may be two but eventually if things don't change I will be gone.
no a waw..just stops complaining not giving that warning...I will not be classified under the same category as these women who freak out over nothing and leave...I have legit complaints and got stuck with a wah...when I go I wont be a waw...I'll be doing both h and I a favor.
he's happier without me and it appears other than the fear of the "family" I'm better off without him too!
He knows exactly what's going on he just doesn't know wtf to do about it anymore...he's dug his whole so deep and isn't handy enough to make a ladder and refuses to tie any knots in the rope I threw down there for him...so there he sits in his hole.
