Frustrated with W not admitting OM

[gr8 day 2B alive]

I'm more of a "fight-the-affair" guy, so I can't really do the "letting them go" thing any justice. There used to be a poster around here named Robx that explained it pretty well; might've even had a suggested script for what you say. But the thought behind it is that you're basically saying "I hear you -- you're not happy. I agree, this isn't working, and it isn't working for me, either, so I"m giving you what you want, and moving on. I value myself too much to want to stay with someone who doesn't want to stay with ME."

Here's the basic scrpit. You have to mean these words to have an impact. there's no bluffing with this.
Here's the email I sent to my W last year, it did lead her to reconsider:
You contacted me over a month ago to talk and haven't made any effort. It has become very clear to me and I now get it. You are not attracted to me and haven't been for quite some time. It must feel terrible to think you would want to be with a man you're not in love with or attracted to. I was honestly angry before because I didn't get it, but now I do get it. I don't blame you for leaving if you felt that way. I would want out too if I felt that way about a woman. I now get it. That's why I can't be with you anymore. I can't be with someone who isn't attracted to me. It's time we both move on. All the time I've spent going through this whole process with you has really opened my eyes about a lot of things, I am not sure what I feel about you anymore now either.
Once the final draft of the contract is drawn I will be filing the agreement so we can both move on with our lives.
I wish you the best for our kids' sake and I truely hope you find what you're looking for in life.

Hope this helps.
gr8