Hi Starsky, I remember this thread. It was really helpful. My personal thought was - EA/PA can be ignored for a short period if you want to use that time to get yourself together or make other arrangements (I did) - but after a while the spouse is just eating cake and learning that you'll accept their behavior. Not that we can change their behavior - just at some point it seemed silly to pretend to believe what I was hearing. Just my opinion. And in my situation I was dealing with an EA and not (as far as I know) a PA.
