Confused,

Good name because I am confused too.

Tough to tell if you are actually piecing, or if your H is there in body only.

This distinction changes the dynamics of what to do.

If he has returned after an A and then refuses MC. I am concerned.

Trying to 'wing' this is going to be so difficult.

I understand the boundaries are tough to set. Even tougher to enforce.

But you need to start the process. Trying not to beat a dead horse here, but IMO it is critical in your case.

You need to separate what you would 'like' from what you 'need'

A text letting you know he will be late is one thing.

Full disclosure is something else.

MC is another.

Think about what is a true deal breaker for you.

But going back. I also think you need to know exactly where you stand before this can even take place.

BITS

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.