the down side is it will get ugly....I've already told h to leave if he's not going to participate in this r...he boldly states "I'm not going anywhere" and when I tell him I sometimes feel like taking the kids and running away his response is "you can't handle these kids" oh really??? who comes here and helps me take care of them all day every day then????
If I were to sit h down tonight and tell him I want him to leave and I'm filing for d...I'd have to have him legally removed from the house and he would proceed to make things very difficult for me and for the kids...no he wouldn't deprive them financially but things would get ugly.
so really what is my option RIGHT NOW??? right now I am not in a position to have him removed if it comes to it..I don't work and if I did get a job it would require putting the kids in day care of some kind as they are not in school.
I'm tired of giving ultimatums...when I'm ready to do it for real I will and there will be no changing my mind..h has been warned several times of the path he walks..he doesn't feel like taking any detours or changing the scenery so ...so be it...
funny isn't it that h has made plans with bil to come here and watch football with him this weekend but cannot be bothered to make plans to do anything with me...the only reason we were even awake new years eve is because I invited our friends over...I say our friends becuase the h went to school with h from elementary through hs and the w has become my friend (and not just the wives friend but a real friend) otherwise h probably would have fallen asleep on the couch as it was his plan to watch football and wait he did watch football but had to play board game with us.
