Have you talked to an attorney yet? Considering how fast your wife seems to be fleeing from the marriage, and how fleshed out her plans seem to be, I'd strongly advise it if you haven't already done so. It doesn't mean you have to file for divorce (if you disagree with what your wife is doing, you should make HER do all the heavy lifting in this area), but it's just wise to better understand your rights and responsibilities here.
I'd also strongly suggest that you separate your finances, ASAP, if you haven't already done so.
Sadly, your wife -- in her current state -- is no friend of your marriage right now, so unfortunately you have to do some things to protect yourself while you simultaneously apply the DB/DR principles (GAL, etc.).
