Can my relationship be saved?

[JustStunned]

I expect the mods can explain it better but the anonymity of people on this site is maintained for the protection of the people on this site. Some to most of the people on this site have been or are in a pretty vulnerable state. Unfortunately trolls and others wishing to take advantage while not common here could become a problem.

I know the desire to communicate with someone you’ve identified with or think has a good POV to your sitch can be strong. There are people here I would love to have conversations with, but conversations about our sitches are better had with a coach. They are trained.

STBXW is taking the washer and dryer. Peeing in it is one of the most benign acts I have considered. Deciding to take the higher road prevents me from taking revenge. I know well the old Klingon proverb “Revenge is a dish best served cold”

Being confronted with the reality of the affair hurts more. It just does. The mechanisms one has put in place to deign the fear are all ripped away.

There is an opinion that most affairs will be short lived as reality often doesn’t live up to fantasy. I do not have a personal reference for it, but I have seen it happen. I can state healing and reconciling afterward is a b!tch.

I did my best to be businesslike. She perceived it to be cold distant and angry. I probably should have tried to smile more. I know I did my best. You will too.