Can my relationship be saved?

[a girl]

It says PMs are disabled. Is there a way we're allowed to exchange email? I don't want to violate board rules, but I think emailing with someone else in this boat would help.

I chatted with OW's H a bit today. He makes my heart hurt because he's so delusional - thinks that now that they've met, it'll "make reality set in" and they will "probably break up pretty quickly".

I told him he needs to deal with the reality that *is* - not the one he wishes was.

For me, I got some great advice last night - treat my H like a business partner I am on an important project with. Be cordial and pleasant, but not interested in chit chat or his personal life. I think that will help me navigate the next few weeks.