How to heal the emotions from an affair?

[saffie]

I was the bosses W who was the last of the four to know about my H's A. As soon as I found out I managed to put a stop to it.

We had a traumatic few weeks but it was like pulling off a plaster fast......and we have never looked back since. We are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary in Sept......the problems all came out just before our 20th anniversary. We continue to go from strength to strength, ( with the occasional wobble like any long married couple; but we always look to the future together).

I was so hurt to be the last to find out. I felt duped and that I could trust no-one. I had a right to know my H was cheating and I wish OW's H had had the balls to tell me.

However, exposure does not always help and you must be well aware of that. I was lucky in the timing of things in my sitch I think - to be honest I think the A had run it's course as far as my H was concerned and he didn't know how to entangle himself from OW and start working on our M again. I helped him do that. We both accepted our mistakes in the M that had led to my H feeling he needed to seek solace elsewhere. There are two sides to every sitch.

Good luck.