That is one of the BIGGEST reasons that I'm hesitant to set "boundaries" because I always tend to let it slide. For example: I have asked him repeatedly to call if he is going to be working late or if he is going to go somewhere after work. The other night he was supposed to get off of work at 4. At 8:15 I received a text from him that said "i stopped at mom and dad's after work. I'll be leaving here in a few." I did not respond to him because I was angry and I felt that it would be best to leave it alone. When he got home he acted like everything was good and then he finally clued in that I was upset. Here's how the conversation went:
H: What's your deal? Me: Nothing, I'm good. H: Obviously you are not good. Me: There is no reason to discuss this as you are just going to get angry and it's going to start an argument. H: Whatever...just tell me what Me: OK..You were supposed to get off at 4 today and I get a text from you at 8:15 saying that you were at your parents. H: I worked late and then I stopped by my mom's. Me: That's fine. I don't care that you worked late, I don't care that you stopped by your parents'. What makes me upset is that you couldn't take the time to send me a quick text to let me know you were working late and that you were going to stop by your parents. You want me to trust you, but you do not want to do anything to help me with that. H: I told you that I was working late this week and I thought I was doing good to text you and let you know where I was.
There was more conversation, but eventually we just quit speaking and then 10 min later he acts like nothing is wrong and goes on like normal. Was I wrong? Or did I just handle it incorrectly. I'm driving myself NUTS. It's starting to get old VERY quickly. I ask him what he wants from me, but he can NEVER tell me and I feel like I'm beating my head against a brick wall. Do I just go back to DBing...acting happy all of the time, GALing (with or without him), avoid any R talk, and pretty much leading a separate life unless he chooses to participate?
Me: 31 H: 30 Kids: D9 Together almost 12 years Married almost 5 years EA began: 8/10 Separated: 3/11
