I saw a text conversation between her and her girlfriend about a guy she's been tslking to. I know I shouldn't snoop but I just had to confirm my suspicions.
For now I'm just working on getting the money together to buy her out of the house and move on.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
I saw a text conversation between her and her girlfriend about a guy she's been tslking to. I know I shouldn't snoop but I just had to confirm my suspicions.
It's OK you did. You need to know what you're up against.
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For now I'm just working on getting the money together to buy her out of the house and move on.
Time for BM77 to get HIS ducks in a row.
I have been where you are. Separate your Finances and get the house appraised. Cancel all joint credit cards. You need to protect yourself first.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Start showing her the reality of her decisions. Tell her SHE needs to move out, the sooner the better.
A lot of times when the WAW is hit with the reality of the situation(Legal and financial) they wake up or at least think about it.
It's the bomb we LBSs drop on them.
Don't be a d!ck or argue with her. This stuff is all matter of fact. You deserve better and she needs to know you're not bluffing.
Base your decisions on the facts NOT feelings. Your W is talking to OM. She is unhappy with her situation. Let her go. Lead her to the door.
Do all this with confidence and a smile. It's all about BM now and your kids. gr8
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
We did have an agreement in place when this all went down last year and we still agree that it is a fair deal for both.
She won't leave until I come up with the money to buy her out and she knows I can't force her out.
She did suggest splitting the house in half and we can each live in separate parts and split the bills down the middle. I told her I didn't think that was a good idea and let me see about getting the money together first. The only positive I see in this is it would give me more time to get the 60K together to get her out and if we split the bills 50/50 then that would give me time to pay off my cc debt and be debt free by the time she does leave. Plus the kids are about to start school and I wouldn't like for this to come when they start school.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
gr8, Hold On To Your N.U.T.s is a great book and I read it in 4 hours. Thanks for recommending it. I know if I had this book 2 years ago I wouldn't be in the position I am today.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
