I'm working on 180's. A big one for me is to be more proactive in taking care of things. She's always done a lot of things that I take for granted, e.g. bills. I definie=tely need to stop the ILU's... and not trying to engage in chit chat via text with her during the day. I gave her access to the bank account on-line. We share an account and she always said she diodnt have access. Not totally true, I gave her the log in a long time ago. I didn't say that, though. I'm always passive on things like dinner. When we go away with the kids I will be more proactive. And when we are gone I wont take my phone with me, or maybe I'll ask her to hold it in her purse...
