also..

Start showing her the reality of her decisions. Tell her SHE needs to move out, the sooner the better.

A lot of times when the WAW is hit with the reality of the situation(Legal and financial) they wake up or at least think about it.

It's the bomb we LBSs drop on them.

Don't be a d!ck or argue with her. This stuff is all matter of fact.
You deserve better and she needs to know you're not bluffing.

Base your decisions on the facts NOT feelings.
Your W is talking to OM.
She is unhappy with her situation.
Let her go.
Lead her to the door.

Do all this with confidence and a smile.
It's all about BM now and your kids.
gr8

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