Truegritter, I do think I have this much straight in my head. I didn't say the traditional stuff - I wrote my own six simple vows.

"I promise to love and respect you as long as I live." It was quite consciously NOT "as long as we both live" because I didn't want to make my promise to him contingent on his reciprocating.

"I will value what is important to you simply because it is important to you."

I am still convinced I made the right vows. I think the place where I struggle is honoring what is important to him when it directly conflicts with what is important to me.

2x4s?

M: 43 H: 44 M: 12.5 if the 5.5 year separation counts
Bomb (I dropped it): Dec '07
H said finit: Jun '10
I moved on: May '13