The changes you make are for YOU, not to win them back.
You can make things worse but probably not better.
So what you DO can affect what happens because you can MAKE IT WORSE. Everything is very counter intuitive. Sometimes doing NOTHING is really doing something.
Until you really understand MLC it will make no sense.
DB'ing DOES work but it is really for YOU, to save yourself. Because like when you are in an airplane that loses cabin pressure, until you save yourself, you can't save anyone else.
If you want to see something you can DO. Read the pursuit and distance thread. That is more in depth analysis of what MWD writes about. It comes from the book "Solo Partner" The basic idea is to STOP your pursuit. MWD talks about a see-saw. Same thing.
Read up, and keep studying at some point it will start to make more sense.
