From what I've seen of the posts on here our situations are much alike, just as Tad said in my thread. Since mine is new, I have a couple of questions about some of the advice I've seen on here:
First off, I see several that are not really advocating using DB techniques very much. Some say that no matter what you say or do it won't affect the outcome of whether she comes back or not. Just like Tad, I stress over each interaction with my W because I worry that I may either drive her further away or miss an opportunity to bring her closer. But, from what I've seen on here other than not arguing with her there's not much I can do either way.
Is she completely oblivious to changes I'm making? She did comment a few weeks ago that I have lost weight, but she stopped short of making it a compliment and would not answer when I asked if I looked better. That seemed really strange to me.
Tad, I totally respect your desire to be a better father. I have custody of our kids and will have them at least 5 nights a week, along with keeping the house. That's a ton of responsibility that I was completely unready to take on as the BD was a complete blindside to me. We both have to work on making sure we take care of ourselves so that we will be able to take care of our kids. My greatest fear is failing them by not being able to meet their needs.
M 39 W 41 Married 18 years Together 21 D18 D10 S6 D filed May 16, 2011 Bomb Dropped May 18, 2011 D in process
