a waw's path begins when she resigns trying, stops asking for change, stops asking to have her needs met and stops trying to fix the r with a thought in mind that she will not stay around forever.
I don't often speak up anymore about my dissatisfaction with the state of our r and when I do it is mostly a warning that things aren't changing and eventually I'll stop trying and poof will be gone.
a waw doesn't always leave suddenly...the road to waw is long and I know I'm on it...
how the heck can I stay on my side of the court when h takes it upon himself to show up on my side and fall asleep? am I supposed to assume that his not sitting downstairs watching football but instead choosing to take over my tv but then throw the remote at me when he thinks "gee I don't suppose you want to watch this" and then just falls asleep there? wtf am I supposed to do then??? go down to his cave? go to bed? sit here at the puter? about all there is left for me to do is re aragne the spare bedroom and hide in there every night reading unless I want to go out (wich I sometimes do)
point is h isn't going to change...I've played this game before and I know it leads to "too little too late" the fact that h is asleep on the family room couch as aposed to the basement couch is a prime example of too little too late. Although I must admit he's doing a much better job of helping out with the kids lately but again we've been down that road to...it typically doesn't last and then it's back to him patting himself on the back simply because he showers with son and then puts him to bed every night.
