Val, Ok I understand protecting yourself. Do what you believe to be protecting your best interest dispassionately, keep the emotion out of these decisions as much as possible. If you can, try and wait 48 hours or so before making any responses. It gives you a chance to review and consider and plan the best course. Try and remain flexible with alternatives when you do plan, no plan ever survives first contact
Do you plan on discussing freezing the account? Can you do so dispassionately? Can you do so proactively? Can you do so compassionately and in control of yourself?
I ask because money was a hot button topic in my sitch. Any discussion about money for STBXW and me became an argument about control. During these it helped me to visualize our kids having a temper tantrum. I would not permit reactions and walked away. Access to/control of money can invoke some pretty strong opinions in people.
IDK how CA looks at this. In my state all assets are community property unless specifically excluded through a pre-nuptial agreement. We split the joint accounts, but everything in our individual accounts is still considered community property.
I don’t remember if you have spoken to a L. If you are seeing this sitch escalate and you feel the need to protect yourself legally I would suggest doing so. At least try to be informed as you make yourself over.
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Urgh.. the beginning steps of D are not fun.
No none of this is. If it was more people would do it all the time.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
