Do your kids know? I get the impression they don't.
I understand, I think, why your wife doesn't. You don't want her pity, or for her to come back for the wrong reasons...
I think that's pretty f-ing strong of you.
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First off, you aren't a failure. Not at all.
Originally Posted By: tank
I am really starting to regret all that i have done for this women. How could i be so stupid?
I cannot make you not regret it. I can hope that you don't. I get the feeling it wasn't in you, as in: you are not the type of guy to not reach out to help to fix, as suckage as this lesson was to learn, you wouldn't learn it any other way, you had to figure it out on your own. I did.
On that note...
Originally Posted By: tank
if i dont make it through this, the kids will have lost both parents.
IF the worst starts to come to pass, could you envision your illness as some sort of bridge to the woman who used to be a great mother and your children?
Not to get her back with you, but to get her back for them?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
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