i think if you asked my father why he was always angry, he would say he wasn't. but rarely a day went by when he wasnt yelling at me or my siblings or my mother. he woke up with it and just had to get it out. i could walk into the room he was in and feel the anger, and knew something was coming. there was no standing up against it, that just enraged him more. i have been conditioned to just accept anger and swallow it.
a few years ago he had a stroke and is a different man, i have not seen any of that anger in years.
which is why i'm led to believe that its a chemical impulse.
as difficult as it may be, yes, you may need to put your marriage on hold until you manage the anger.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
