I truly love her and I always have, and I would do anything to help her and to save our relationship and family. Even with all my education, I feel so completely helpless and useless.
Thundarr,
So sorry you are here, but you will find understanding and compassion and knowledge here as you navigate you and your family through this.
Given your education and background the information you will find here will be familiar and hopefully will help you understand what your wife is going through.
However, there is nothing you can do to help except lovingly detach from her actions and words and stay out of her way.
Usually another poster here will stop by with a wealth of links to resources here that shed some light on exactly what your W is experiencing and why.
You will find that as you read story after story they are eriely (sp) similar. As I was reading yours I could remember back 2 years ago when my XW was saying the exact same things.
The hatred that you are getting from your W will die down, it takes a lot of energy to remain angry. If you try to engage her in any way, talk sense into her, tell her that she is in MLC or basically anything else.....it will just feed that anger and prolong it.
If she is willing to give you custody of the kids and the house take it while she is willing.
One thing you will find is that her feelings will change with the wind.
Hang in there, this is a marathon not a sprint it will take much longer than you could imagine, the upside about the TIME is that it is a gift to work on you.
Hope this helps...
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
