.....There is also a martial arts dojo that teaches jiu jitsu, mma, and kickboxing. Might sign up for some classes once things normalize in my routine. (YAH how's that for manly? )
For ex-NG's staying with GAL is very important.
As a 5LL believer and guy committed to my M, I don't think pulling back would ever be an option for me. Unconditional love with the realization that what my wife chooses could end our marriage, yes......but not my pulling back from her, unless it were part of DBing.
PM is a hard read and hard (for me) to really understand, but valuable. Plan on having to really think about what Schnarch is saying.
Sounds real alpha-male, but only do it if you think it will be something that makes you a better more integrated man. Some martial arts come with a strong dose of ethics and teach the appropriate and inappropriate use of force. A long time ago I studied Goju Kai karate and Aikido, the philosophy of the proper use of force was as valuable to me as the fighting techniques.
You are getting lots of good advice from others. Marriage is a crucible. Look at some of your earlier posts and think about how much you have learned about yourself in just a few months. Look at all the knowledge you have gained about yourself, your father, your wife, and what is really important to you. Look at what you have changed about the way you act and how that has partially changed the way your wife acts. There is hope and you will find happiness if you work at it.
Good luck to you and your wife, I hope you find happiness and love.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
