Thanks, Bill, and I totally agree with you that it will be down the road before there is a chance to reconcile. I don't think she's reachable at this time as she is enmeshed in her fantasy world. I definitely want to stand and restore our family when she is able, as she really is the most wonderful person I've ever met.
That being said, I've often felt I wasn't dealing with a sane person when she goes off on me. The evil things she has said are like she's possessed by a demon or something. It's definitely not what the W I've known all these years would do o say. I treat the situation like she's sick and will be well again someday. I'm totally disheartened that she's fast-tracking the D like she is, like she cannot wait to get rid of me like I'm just trash. I'm definitely mistreated, but I know I could forgive her based on all we've been through as well as knowing she's not in her right mind now.
I love Michelle's books and have read DB and DR multiple times. In fact, I used to go to the bookstore almost every day. I'm doing my best to shield myself and the kids from all of this, but seeing their innocent faces and knowing their world and security is being torn apart is more than I can handle sometimes. I pray for a quick end to this, and for their Mommy to go back to being herself whether that means being my wife or not.
M 39 W 41 Married 18 years Together 21 D18 D10 S6 D filed May 16, 2011 Bomb Dropped May 18, 2011 D in process