Quote: guys are so freakin weird...spend time with them and they could care less...go do your own thing and they wonder where you are.
Why do you not do this all the time? When you pursue your h, try to talk with him, try to get into 'his head,' it backfires in your face and he withdraws.
When you concentrate on you, your kids, doing what you want to do and act like he isn't even in the house, he comes looking for you.
So if this type of behavior gets you somewhere with him, why not retrain yourself to act like this all the time? I know it doesn't 'feel' right to you, but that could be because you just don't do it enough. Practice makes perfect, hm?
You know the song and dance about 'if you want change, change yourself.' What if this is all the change you need? Why don't you try a little experiment for yourself, make a resolution to act this way for... a month. You don't tell him what you are doing, just do it. See what happens. Why not? What do you have to lose?
