And the beat goes on...

[luvmyhubby]

Tel,
Im so sorry! I know you are trying to think what you could have done differently and that is not wrong. However I think that every step that our S take away from us we go back to panic mode. We are full of hope and that is all we seem to have and when our hopes get dashed it [censored]!
You did what you did because it felt right at the time so dont kick yourself for not getting the perfect outcome! You did a great job of dbing but things are never for sure.

She doesnt want a D right now and that is a great sign. Keep doing what you can do for you to be better and she will take notice. She probably has things she feels she needs to do or work on to be better as well and giving her that space is important.

This next phase with her moving out etc will be hard on you. When you go to the closet with her things gone but it will get easier to be in your home without her.

I know this well! My H left behind a ton of things and finally after he asked for a D and I discovered the OW I packed up EVERYTHING. I didnt care where he took it but he didnt want the home we built with our hands anymore he couldnt use it as a storage unit either. So remember your boundaries through this and make sure they are set.. Dont let her see you sweat!

You are doing great! Keep it up! One breath at a time..