"Not sure if I'm done - I think the real test will be on Friday when we tell S7."
As odd as this sounds.. try not to let events be the things that steer your "emotion". I read things the way they come out on the page here.. because most likely they come out "here" (DB.com) in order of importance. They do so simply because you are posting in an emotional state. You feel safe and you are looking for help.
"I'm fine to greet him cordially at the door when he drops off S7, and be pleasant. I just don't want to engage in 10-15 minutes of "how's blah blah at work blah blah" conversation with him."
Ok.. so you are good with putting on the smile. You are not ok with talking about the "blah". Nothing wrong with that. It is a fantastic start. What are things that you can do to make the "meetings" like that? How can you keep the "meetings" just about showing your face and your smile? Does this put some control in your hands? Does it make you a stronger person?
I know some of the questions were redundant but I want you to "see" where I am going with the statement.
Back to this...
"Not sure if I'm done - I think the real test will be on Friday when we tell S7."
Right off the bat you are telling me you are not done. Which is fine. I am here to hold you to what you say. People say things without understanding the work that has to be done to make them happen. I don't want you to say "Forrest I am done!!" cause most likely being this fresh at DB'ing you would be lying to me. If you are unsure.. you are not done.
Don't let the Friday event become a "test" or the litmus that you use. You will come to "Forrest I am done" by a continued behavior pattern from him. The idea behind DB'ing is to bring people close to you by standing out and being your own person.. becoming attractive by doing "nothing" more or less. The first step is to get your head or "Emotions" in check. Start slow and just do the best that you can. Eat.. sleep.. and prepare for what is coming.
Can you play out what you might say to the kids on Friday? What are your ideas that you want to put out there?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
